{"id":306,"date":"2019-11-19T20:20:56","date_gmt":"2019-11-19T20:20:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/?p=306"},"modified":"2019-11-27T02:05:26","modified_gmt":"2019-11-27T02:05:26","slug":"dont-let-the-grinch-of-trauma-rob-you-of-joy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/2019\/11\/19\/dont-let-the-grinch-of-trauma-rob-you-of-joy\/","title":{"rendered":"Don\u2019t Let the \u201cGrinch\u201d of Trauma Rob You of Joy"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>\n\t\tDon\u2019t Let the \u201cGrinch\u201d of Trauma Rob You of Joy\n\t<\/h2>\n<h4>\n\t\tMarti Wibbels, MS, LMHC\n\t<\/h4>\n\t<p>Like the grinch whose heart was \u201ctwo sizes too small,\u201d does it seem like you can\u2019t enjoy life at all? From the smells of Thanksgiving to the music of Christmas, trauma memories can yank you from the present to the past in less than 1\/12 of a second. Those \u201cambushes\u201d can make life feel out of control\u2014taking you to a world of panic attacks, overwhelm, shame, grief, sleeplessness, or fear. What can you do when the \u201cmost wonderful time of the year\u201d\u00a0 feels anything but that?<\/p>\n<p>1. <strong>Be kind to yourself.<\/strong> Simply notice whenever one of your five senses takes you to the pain of loss, betrayal, or other suffering, and immediately tell yourself something like, \u201cOh, hearing that song makes me think of\u2026..\u201d without either repressing the feeling or condemning yourself for having it. <em>It\u2019s important to begin to feel so you can heal.<\/em> If you\u2019ve recently lost a loved one, holidays can be especially painful, with reminders of what used to be. It\u2019s important to allow yourself to grieve in a healthy way, not only to feel the sadness but to experience God\u2019s tangible gifts of comfort and hope. Jesus said, \u201cBlessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted\u201d (Matthew 5:4). After expressing your grief, consciously focus on God, realizing His tender compassion. Jesus understands your sadness, and He can make beauty from life\u2019s fragments. Chapter Nine of <em>Core Healing from Trauma,<\/em> \u201cDiscovering Purpose,\u201d offers practical ideas for discovering your unique purpose.<\/p>\n<p>2. <strong>Choose to live in the present.<\/strong> During the holidays, trauma-fueled panic attacks send many to the ER, convinced they\u2019re having heart attacks. If a medical exam confirms it\u2019s anxiety increasing your heart rate and causing the pain, you can take charge of what\u2019s happening in your brain and body. Start by changing your self-talk, saying something like, \u201cA panic attack can last only two to three minutes if I\u2019ll decisively manage it.\u201d Notice where you\u2019re breathing, changing your breaths from shallow to deep. Practice <strong>calm\/diaphragmatic breathing: <\/strong>To begin, inhale through your nose for three to four seconds, inflating your lungs and breathing so deeply that your belly goes \u201cout.\u201d Then, hold your breath for about two seconds before slowly exhaling through your mouth for four to five seconds, noticing your belly go \u201cin.\u201d To prevent hyperventilation, pause a second or two before taking another breath, and continue repeating this breathing process at a comfortable rate. As you breathe deeply, filling your lungs with life-giving oxygen, you\u2019re also allowing your body to relax. Proverbs 14:30 explains, <em>\u201cA heart at peace brings life to the body,\u201d<\/em> and that is true! Take a deep breath now, focusing on enjoying this moment. [Since we breathe 24\/7, it\u2019s vital to consciously practice deep breathing throughout the day. If you wake up with an intrusive dream, simply breathe to move back into the present.]<\/p>\n<p>3. <strong>Many people choose anxiety medication without exploring other options.<\/strong> If you\u2019re already taking medication for anxiety, please don\u2019t stop without medical supervision, since doing so can cause significant side-effects. Although there are times when people need medication to survive, psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen explains, \u201cBeware that traditional treatment with anti-anxiety medications can be harmful to the brain. For example, benzodiazepines\u2014including Xanax, Valium, and Ativan\u2014suppress brain activity and can make the brain look toxic (shriveled or low in activity). They have also been found to increase the risk of dementia. Even more alarming is the fact that deaths from overdoses involving benzos quadrupled from 2002 to 2015, according to the National Institute on Drug Abuse. And a 2016 study found that the number of prescriptions being doled out for benzos has jumped by 67%. Now, an estimated 13.5 million American adults are popping these harmful and addictive antianxiety pills.\u201d Instead of allowing a prescription to be your starting point, practice the breathing technique mentioned in #2, above. And you can immediately begin managing disruptive thoughts. Click here to learn how: <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pbcounseling.com\/Forms\/Depression.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Overcoming Depression<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>4. <strong>Listen to music that inspires and encourages you.<\/strong> After the Grinch thought he\u2019d robbed Who-ville of Christmas by taking their gifts, he was astonished to observe \u201cEvery Who down in Who-ville, the tall and the small, was singing! Without any presents at all!\u201d Music can help us transform trauma and realize life itself is a gift.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/27_CHEditorialImages_LikeADance-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"27_CHEditorialImages_LikeADance\" itemprop=\"image\" height=\"576\" width=\"1024\" title=\"27_CHEditorialImages_LikeADance\" onerror=\"this.style.display='none'\"  \/>\n\t<p> \u00a9 2019 Marti Wibbels | website loved on by <a href=\"http:\/\/agencyo.co\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Agency O<\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Don\u2019t Let the \u201cGrinch\u201d of Trauma Rob You of Joy Marti Wibbels, MS, LMHC Like the grinch whose heart was \u201ctwo sizes too small,\u201d does it seem like you can\u2019t enjoy life at all? From the smells of Thanksgiving to the music of Christmas, trauma memories can yank you from the present to the past&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"tpl-full-width.php","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/306"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=306"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/306\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":336,"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/306\/revisions\/336"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=306"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=306"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/corehealingfromtrauma.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=306"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}